Viagra and Vaseline are examples of a philosophy of rape. Sexual penetration is presented as if the norm or ideal; it is not. Sexuality has many form, it is one of the unspoken wordless forms of body language. There is a fundamental logic to the way our body functions. It is not subject to the dictates of advertising nor the mind; the body has an understanding of its own. The absence of an erection is but one of its signs; it is rarely a symptom.
Erection ‘impotence’ is in fact often a power of the body to express itself. Often it is a reflection of a simple body understanding: the man is tired, has other things on his mind, is disinterested at a deeper level, or is incompatible with the partner for whichever reason. Sometimes it simply signals that the man is immersed into deeper feelings, deeper levels of sensing and sensation, a kind of trance state where the sexual is not expressed in penetration but in union. Not only the penis and vagina are covered with skin, but so is all of our body. There are many occasions where – for and in a sexual interaction – the skin is the predominant interface for communication.
Presently many people are falsely sold on the idea that lack of erection is ‘reason to see a doctor’; Pfizer actually uses huge billboards to announce this message. This is a response to the sale of Viagra; a replica of the age old herbs used for sexual stimulation. Many of these herbs work by e.g. irritating the urethra, with a tingling sensation that can be confused with sexual arousal. For those experienced in the training of Qi, the difference is pronounced. And the herbal ‘cure’ no ‘remedy’ for what the body is trying to tell you.
It is much easier to listen to the message of the body; and to realise that sex is not about penile penetration, but about sharing with the other, in fact with the universe as a whole. (One of the reasons many churches down-regulate sex is because it is one of the roads to spiritual enlightenment by direct learning from the wisdom of the body.) Sex is about continued existence: about the union of the part with the whole; the human with the universe (a.k.a. god).
From the point f perspective of the body impotence is not a problem but a solution, not a symptom but a signal. By buying into ‘cures’ you become ‘sold’ on the idea that sex is about penetration; it is not. It is about the continued existence of the species. Sex is not a gratificatory for of mutual masturbations, as momentary relief of daily problems; although many know sex in this way. Sex is part of the mechanism by which the universe maintains its continuity and ongoing existence. The basic form of the underlying connectedness of the universe is commonly called love. When love is felt, sex still soars in absence of erections.