sexschool

It is important for all to have a good personal understanding of sex. Many people are frustrated in their personal life due to an impersonal condition: sex. Many people are not educated in sex. This is why this blog has been set up: share with others what works for you, that all can experience that all is one. READ THE FIRST POSTING.

Sunday, January 01, 2006

Impotence

Impotence

Viagra and Vaseline are examples of a philosophy of rape. Sexual penetration is presented as if the norm or ideal; it is not. Sexuality has many form, it is one of the unspoken wordless forms of body language. There is a fundamental logic to the way our body functions. It is not subject to the dictates of advertising nor the mind; the body has an understanding of its own. The absence of an erection is but one of its signs; it is rarely a symptom.

Erection ‘impotence’ is in fact often a power of the body to express itself. Often it is a reflection of a simple body understanding: the man is tired, has other things on his mind, is disinterested at a deeper level, or is incompatible with the partner for whichever reason. Sometimes it simply signals that the man is immersed into deeper feelings, deeper levels of sensing and sensation, a kind of trance state where the sexual is not expressed in penetration but in union. Not only the penis and vagina are covered with skin, but so is all of our body. There are many occasions where – for and in a sexual interaction – the skin is the predominant interface for communication.

Presently many people are falsely sold on the idea that lack of erection is ‘reason to see a doctor’; Pfizer actually uses huge billboards to announce this message. This is a response to the sale of Viagra; a replica of the age old herbs used for sexual stimulation. Many of these herbs work by e.g. irritating the urethra, with a tingling sensation that can be confused with sexual arousal. For those experienced in the training of Qi, the difference is pronounced. And the herbal ‘cure’ no ‘remedy’ for what the body is trying to tell you.

It is much easier to listen to the message of the body; and to realise that sex is not about penile penetration, but about sharing with the other, in fact with the universe as a whole. (One of the reasons many churches down-regulate sex is because it is one of the roads to spiritual enlightenment by direct learning from the wisdom of the body.) Sex is about continued existence: about the union of the part with the whole; the human with the universe (a.k.a. god).

From the point f perspective of the body impotence is not a problem but a solution, not a symptom but a signal. By buying into ‘cures’ you become ‘sold’ on the idea that sex is about penetration; it is not. It is about the continued existence of the species. Sex is not a gratificatory for of mutual masturbations, as momentary relief of daily problems; although many know sex in this way. Sex is part of the mechanism by which the universe maintains its continuity and ongoing existence. The basic form of the underlying connectedness of the universe is commonly called love. When love is felt, sex still soars in absence of erections.

Sex is Simple

Sex is Simple

Sex is built into our body.From our emergence out of the symbiosis of microbes (read up on the work of Lynn Margulis for this) our body makes use of two mechanisms to continue to exixt:
  1. Cell division; this is what is described in many medical text books.

  2. Sexual recombination.
BOTH are relevant to our continued existence, as Both are essential for the continued existence of the human species. Sex is not a personal affair: it is part of the existence of our species. Cell Division and (sexual) Cell Fusion – together – are part of the mechanism of attunement of the part to the whole. Together they ‘straddle the interface’ between unit and unity.

Sex is already seen in the microbes. There, differences in experience are communicated by the sharing of information, which is done by the extrusion of a protein strand from one microbe to another. The mechanism for making hormones, enzymes, and proteins that is found in body cells is therefore already basis of sexual transmission. In it, one cell that has migrated to other domains communicates what it experienced to cells that did not. In this way microbes can build up immunity to antibiotics. (Which is good for those microbes, and also for humans as antibiotics treat only the symptom and not the cause. Most microbial infections are by microbes already living on our body, but able to live in unusual spaces because the body circulation was changed.)

Sex has many shapes: as many as the species that the microbes by their symbioses developed into. The logicality and necessity of sexuality is thus a natural aspect of nature.

Sexuality has many modes of denial; as many as there are cultures and social groupings who in a way try to impose their ‘rule’ as superior to that of nature. Sometimes, rarely, such social regulations on sexual behaviour are well-meant. Most often they are forms of cultural tyranny by which one group of people wish to impose their ‘superiority’ onto others. Churches are well-known for their abuse of sexual regulation instead of sexual education.

Sex is best understood by understanding the body.
In it, all the principles and ‘secrets’ of sex are readily found. For the body  they are necessity, not a secret. So, in order to understand what your sexuality means and represents, study the workings of your own body. And realise – as described above – it is part of the way our cells function and replicate: cell division within bodies; cell fusion between bodies.